An example of the hugely popular Expectation v Reality memes Photograph: Buzzfeed
Theres the sense that, and perhaps its even stronger among millennials, were all somewhat inadequate as adults. Were awful at cooking, we dont understand pensions, and we just wanna be left alone to watch marathons of Broad City. When we realise, as Oshry says, that other people feel this way too, we feel better.
Maggy van Eijk, the social media editor of Buzzfeed UK agrees. She explains how the process there works 😛 TAGEND
We have a group of photoshop wizards and illustrators called the distribution squad and we all make one-off memes, jokes,[ and] illustrations that the project works as standalone pieces for Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr and Twitter. The best of them and most viral are the self-deprecating.
I think this is because it makes people either go this is so me or they tag their best friend and run this is so you or best-case scenario they say this is so us and tag a bunch of their friends so it gets shared more widely.
Van Eijk tells me top topics are being shit at make-up, loving puppies more than humans, eating pizza , not showering or exert, and not going to the gym.
One of our most recent comics that really ran wild had to do with shaving your legs for summer and how that really merely means you shave your ankles because you cant be bothered with the rest, and I thought that was so telling. Its unlikely youre going to write a Facebook status that says: HEY GUYS Im merely shaving my ankles because this is what I feel is the norm and the rest of me is fucking hairy get over it but by sharing the comic they are in a position conceal behind the meme while also making a bit of statement.
The British have always been quite good at this dry sense of humour( just look at the success, for instance, of lavatory books like Crap Towns) but its perhaps surprising to watch the take up in America. Or perhaps it is just that with millennials being screwed in the job and housing marketplaces, we cant do much but laugh instead of yell online.
Even social media superstars such Essena ONeill have revealed that their perfect online presence is just a ruse. Oshry said today the glamorous party photo pics are still popular too( the internet has enough room for all types of content ). And psychotherapist and novelist Philippa Perry cautions that these posts becoming more and more popular might just be a knock-on effect of people trying to cash in on the likes. Perry tells me 😛 TAGEND
People find[ it] brave and attractive so more people experiment with being real but I cynically suggest that perhaps rather than being real its only that this type of self-depreciation has been proven to be attractive so its becoming more popular.
This also harvests up when I speak to the inventor behind the @friend_of_bae account, who mentions that these type of dgaf posts have indeed become trendy.
But Perry also says that she recently posted a image with four unwashed mugs to show how not great I am at work, which is comforting to those of us with three empty Coke cans on their desk.
Even if some posts are a facade or it is all a backlash to Rich Kids of Instagram that its cool to be uncool one thing is for sure, being more and more OK with the fact were all socially anxious animals, vying for who has the most banal life and poorest life abilities is likely a damn sight more healthy( and easier) than “re just trying to” out-glam each other or #eat the #cleanest.
I proclaim our new love of self-deprecation to be a positive thing. Now excuse me while I brush the Doritos crumbs off my shirt, and go hang out on Hampstead Heath because I have been invited to precisely zero parties.