Ever felt guilty for grieving more over a dog than a relative? This tale is for you.

Recently, my spouse and I went through one of the more excruciating experiences of our lives- the euthanasia of our beloved puppy, Murphy.

I recollect attaining eye contact with Murphy moments before she took her last breath- she flashed me a look that was an endearing blend of disarray and the reassurance that everyone was OK because we were both by her side.

When people who have never had a dog insure their dog-owning friends mourn the loss of a pet, they probably think it’s all a bit of an overreaction; after all, it’s “just a dog.”

However, those who have loved a puppy know the truth: Your own pet is never “just a dog.”

Many times, I’ve had friends guiltily confide to me that they mourned more over the loss of a dog than over the loss of friends or relatives.

Research has confirmed that for most people, the loss of a dog is in almost every style comparable to the loss of a human loved one.

Unfortunately, there’s little in our culture playbook — no sorrow rituals , no obituary in the local newspaper , no religious service- to help us get through the loss of a pet, which can build us feel more than a bit embarrassed to depict too much public heartbreak over our dead dogs.

Perhaps if people realise just how strong and intense the bond is between people and their puppies, such heartache would become more widely accepted. This would greatly help dog owners to integrate the demise into their lives and help them move forward.

What is it about dogs, exactly, that make humans bond so closely with them?

For starters, dogs have had to adapt to living with humans over the past 10,000 years. And they’ve done it very well: They’re the only animal to have evolved specifically to be our companions and friends .

Anthropologist Brian Hare has developed the “Domestication Hypothesis” to explain how dogs morphed from their grey wolf ancestors into the socially skilled animals that we now interact with in very much the same style as we interact with other people.

Perhaps one reason our relationships with dogs can be even more satisfying than our human relationships is that dogs provide us with such unconditional, uncritical positive feedback .( As the old saying goes, “May I become the kind of person that my dog believes I already am.”)

This is no accident. They have been selectively bred through generations to pay attention to people, and MRI scans present that puppy brains respond to praise from their owners just as strongly as they do to food( and for some puppies, kudo is an even more effective incentive than food ). Dogs recognize people and can learn to construe human emotional state from facial expression alone. Scientific studies also indicate that dogs can understand human intentions, try to help their owners, and even avoid people who don’t collaborating with their owners or treat them well.

Not astonishingly, humen respond positively to such unrequited affection, assistance, and loyalty.

Just looking at dogs can attain people smile. Dog proprietors score higheron measures of well-being, and the objective is happier, on average, than people who own cats or no pets at all.

Our strong attachment to dogs was subtly indicates that there is a recent study of “misnaming.” Misnaming happens when you call someone by the wrong name, like when parents erroneously calls one of their kids by a sibling’s name. It turns out that the name of the family dog also get confused with human family members , indicating that the dog’s name is being pulled from the same cognitive pool that contains other members of the family.( Curiously, the same thing rarely happens with cat names .)

It’s no wonder puppy proprietors miss them so much when they’re gone.

Psychologist Julie Axelrod has pointed out that the loss of a puppy is so painful because owneds aren’t merely losing the pet . It could mean the loss of a source of unconditional love, a primary companion who provides security and comfort, and maybe even a protege that’s been mentored like a child.

The loss of a dog can also seriously disrupt an owner’s daily routine more profoundly than the loss of most friends and relatives. For owners, their daily schedules — even their vacation plans — can revolve around the needs of their pets. Changes in lifestyle and routine are some of the primary sources of stress.

According to a recent survey, many bereaved pet proprietors will even mistakenly construe equivocal sights and sounds as the movements, pants, and whimpers of the deceased pet. This is most likely to happen shortly after the death of the pet, especially among owneds who had very high levels of attachment to their pets.

While the death of a puppy is horrible, puppy owneds have become so accustomed to the reassuring and nonjudgmental presence of their canine companions that, more often than not, they’ll eventually get a new one.

So yes, I miss my dog.

But I’m sure that I’ll be putting myself through this ordeal again in the years to come.

This narrative originally appeared on The Conversation and is published here with permission .

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