If you are a good person, you probably look back at the world right now with a savor of sadness, indignation and bitterness in your mouth and trying your best not to allow yourself to be drawn into the negativity. From the administration has social media, brutality and rudeness seems to have become a norm all the way to the extent that you may feel anxious even posting an opinion on social media, so you don’t post at all. Instead you just view the world around you and feel sad, wondering when negativity began to reign to this degree.
And then one day, you do post an opinion, and you get a barrage of abuse, brutality and unkindness of every degree. And it hurts, because all of these people are judging you , not just for your opinion but you as a human being. In that moment, the dishonour will rinse over you hard and rage will induce you want to lash out. Don’t. Don’t do it. This is going to take every modicum of self discipline inside you but you turn off notifications and you ignore it, act like it never happened. Any negative DMs or messages, should be left unread and deleted.
Look, unfortunately, we live in a period when people love to drag one another down. We live in a day when people enjoy venting their cruel words on strangers on the internet after a bad day. We live in a hour where having an sentiment can be a metaphorical death penalty. But here is how you combat that: you switch off. You go away from the internet for a while. Seriously, forget your phone inside your house, go out for a walk, feel how big the world really is, because scientifically even 40 seconds outside in nature is enough to reduce stress and nervousnes considerably.
I took this interesting lesson from watching my cats’ behaviour for a day. They are always happy, because they live in the moment. Their biggest fear is where their next meal comes from, which is usually in their bowls same time everyday. Now I recognise as humans it is so hard to live like this, but think of it this style, that thing you’re worrying about? It’s not going to go away because you’re worrying about it. That thing you’re overthinking? All it’s doing is depleting your brain and inducing you unproductive.
So here is what you do, you take a transgress. You grab a volume, or a camera, or anything that helps you disconnect from the moment, from the news that is emphasizing you out, from cruel and harsh sentiments online and you go for and sit in nature for a while. If it’s raining, you sit on the porch with a hot drink and watch the rain, and for a while, you just think about how many good and beautiful things there are out in the world. That someone loves you, even in your worst moments. That no matter what happens, there is only so much you can control, and the only thing you can control is your actions towards the things that hurt you. People by and large attack others because of their own insecurities anyway and everyone posting cruel and unkind things should really be regarded with a pinch of salt and pity.
So you take the thing that happened to you, and treat it like a thing that happened long ago. You do something you love and treat yourself to a mug or a glass of your favourite drinking. And you understand that other people’s nasty comments are not in any way a reflection on you, but a reflection on them and their own fallacies.